(CONTENT WARNING: general discussion of trauma and mental illness

Hello! Thank you for joining us on Good for You this week. This post is a continuation of the trauma series- if you haven’t read part 1 and part 2, go check them out. This post will be covering coping with, and healing from, trauma.

The best way to start this post, I think, is to say that everyone’s healing process will be different. The illustration for this article shows the Good for You character with a bandage on their head, which, based on the shock on their face, seems to have magically appeared. This is not how healing works. I will do my best to cover the basics of healing from trauma, but there is no way I will cover it all.

Brains describes healing from trauma in four stages. Stage 1 involves regaining safety and stability and learning to cope with events like flashbacks- in this stage, you’re trying to avoid reliving the trauma. Stage 2 involves facing the memories and not avoiding them when they arise, so you can start to come to terms with the trauma. Stage 3 involves accepting your emotions, but learning to recognize a future away from the trauma and having it not play a major role in your life. Stage 4 involves growth, having powerful realizations and becoming stronger after a long journey of healing.

The most valuable tool in healing from trauma is reaching out for help. Whether this is to someone you know personally who you can trust, or to a counselor at school, or to a therapist, to begin healing it’s incredibly important to reach out. It’s tempting to isolate, but isolation will not be beneficial in the long run. HelpGuide describes healing from trauma as learning to cope with whatever you lost, and a professional or even just someone to talk to can be greatly beneficial.

It’s important to keep yourself healthy. Exercise if you can, and eat food in a way that feels okay to you. Get enough sleep, and try to avoid negative coping mechanisms. Try learning about mindfulness and grounding.

The last thing I want to say is that this post makes healing sound a lot easier than it actually is. Healing from any trauma or any mental illness can be frightening- but it’s important to remember that it’s going to be much less harmful than the issue itself. Plus, everyone’s journey is going to be very, very different. It’s disputed whether or not one can even completely heal from trauma. Healing is a process, but it’s not one to be taken for granted.

That’s all for this week. Next week will hopefully wrap up this series, and then I’m not sure what Good for You will cover. If you have suggestions, contact me at rubicon.spa@gmail.com. Until then, stay safe, and thank you so much for reading.